In a dual family structure, there’s usually a balancing that naturally takes place in the relationship. Sidney Poitier said in his book, The Measure of A Man, “when you walk with someone, something unspoken happens. Either you match their pace or they match yours.” This quote is shared to bring out the point of two adapting to one another. This process of relational adapting may take time, but it happens in all relationship structures. Therefore it’s necessary for the individual who desires for their family to create value by becoming more than to gradually pick up his/her pace.
It has been our experience in helping people to invest, start a business, or create profit, that people have good intentions and a desire to do more, but the discipline to act and consistently take steps to achieve the desire was lacking. We found ourselves having the same discussion with different people, which was “we can’t want your growth more than you.” It seemed that we cared more than the individual. We concluded that the psychology demonstrated was due to a lack of having not made an investment for change. This somewhat pointed to a term called sunk cost, a past cost that has already been paid and cannot be recovered.
For example: You buy tickets to a concert. On the day of the event, you catch a cold. Even though you are sick, you decide to go to the concert because otherwise “you would have wasted your money”.
Yes! Our goal is to build families to create value by becoming more than. However, it’s also necessary to state that our family (Team Byrd) was and is forged and guided by the Holy Spirit of promise through Biblical principles. If you have no desire to hear or receive Biblical encouragement in conjunction with the many life lessons shared, it may not be wise for you to make the family investment.
If this is you, and would like to discuss/ask questions on why we believe. Please email us at build@creatingvalue.club.